This lack of interest in a new Milly or Trina Turk or Nanette Lepore dress exemplifies for me how I have changed since becoming a mother. Sure, I like to look cute still- I haven't completely lost my mind. However, function comes first now. Also, it probably helps that I go out a lot less, so I can wear the same thing over and over and over.
The primary requirements for myself? Machine washable and inexpensive. Miss Priss is precious, but, law, is she is a mess! Her nose is always running, she is drooling with molars coming in, and she has an affinity for digging in any sort of dirt.
I still love to admire beautiful clothes, but my sweet girl and said snotty nose are far more fun to admire.
I really don't mind though. Nothing should be to precious to prevent play in my house right now. That doesn't mean I have tossed my objets d'art or thrown out the good china. They're just on high shelves.
I want my child to be able to come sit on the sofa with her daddy and read a book. I want her to climb up into the big leather chair and bounce with glee clutching her favorite stuffed animal. Push the furniture around and open the cabinets. It brings me such joy to watch Miss Priss explore and play- I don't want to stop her because the sofa is too expensive to touch, or she might spit up on the rug.
There is so much stress and worry that comes with parenthood. Plus it's gross
The other day I made an effort to get out of my exercise/play clothes rut. I put on a nice hand-wash only oatmeal-colored sweater, black pants, and snakeskin loafers. I was looking good. Then I picked up DH, her diaper leaked, and I was covered in poop. There was nothing to do but laugh.
I'm back to the Old Navy workout gear, and I've never felt as beautiful. A laughing, dirty toddler embracing my $20 pant clad leg is more flattering to me than any designer dress ever could be. I guess that is what the change is- your life is no longer your own. However, it is such an indescribable joy to be a fundamental part of your child's life that you simply don't mind very much.
Even when you are covered in disgusting substances.